In the wake of the Hoboken train crash, I thought everyone might be in need of a quick refresher course on how to deal with the “tough stuff” that happens in life. Experiencing a traumatic incident either first-hand or through secondary means such as watching the news can be difficult to cope with. The symptoms are not always obvious initially – but can reveal themselves several days or weeks after the initial incident.
- Increased fear associated with public transportation
- Frequent mood changes.
Understand the golden rule of emotions….How you cope with any changes, and your attitude toward them, will ultimately determine how the changes impact you.
- Listen to your child’s feelings rather than trying to control the conversation.
- Acknowledge and normalize your child’s statements by saying something like this: “It sounds like you are worried about mommy/daddy getting to work” or “It’s okay to feel that way.”
- Be neutral. Don’t judge, criticize, or minimize your child’s feelings. Make comments like: “That’s interesting” or “Tell me more about it” or “What do you mean by that?”
- Express your own feelings without alarming your child. Talk to an adult to vent your no-filter feelings.